Welcome to Sands
We are one of many Sands support groups throughout Scotland offering support to anyone when a baby dies during pregnancy or after birth. The death of a baby is a devastating experience. The effects of grief can be overwhelming and parents, their family and friends can be left feeling dazed, disorientated, isolated and exhausted.
It can be hard to take in information, to make decisions or to imagine how you are going to cope. Sands befrienders understand what it's like as many of us have been through this experience ourselves; we are here to help offer support and information when you need it.
Support for all
The death of a baby can happen to any one of us. What brings us together in Sands is the common experience of this painful loss. Your baby may have been stillborn or died during or shortly after birth. He or she may have spent time in special care. It may be that your baby died at an earlier gestation or that you had to make the difficult decision to end your pregnancy. We offer support whenever a baby dies.
As well as supporting parents, we also help support siblings, grandparents, aunts and uncles. Many people may be touched by your baby's death, including friends and health professionals.
You may not want support or information from us right away. We are here to help whenever you feel you need it. That may be now, in a few weeks, months or even years.
Our core aims:
Sands is a national charity, established by bereaved parents in 1981.
We have 3 core aims which are to:
Support anyone affected by the death of a baby;
To work in partnership with health professionals to improve the quality of care and services offered to bereaved families;
To promote research and changes in practice that could help to reduce the loss of babies' lives
It is not our policy to make the initial contact with bereaved parents, rather we prefer parents contact us when they feel the need.
We are therefore dependent on parents being referred to us by hospital staff, health visitors, G.P.’s, social workers, etc. We circulate the list of meeting dates and befriender contacts to all
The befriender’s list also provides parents with a telephone contact for use in times of stress.
(Please note that all our befrienders are volunteers, and there may be times when we cannot always take your call. Please leave a message and our befrienders will call you back)